Keeping up with the Janes

Insecurity can be a direct route to poor choices, incompatible life partners, and self blaming behaviors. When we empower, support, and educate women on self care and establishing personal and professional boundaries, we extend the tools that are needed to challenge ourselves and others to make decisions based on critical and analytical thinking skills. Providing these tools can help create positive outcomes for women living in poverty or relying on financially based relationships. Many of us have experienced insecurity and can be a light to others who struggle to love and value themselves. The next time you cross paths with someone struggling to love themselves, here are some suggestions based on unconditional love ❤️ “She is such a victim, I don’t want to deal with her” or “victims are so draining”. This is the “anti-victim mindset” — and anything they say is likely to be regarded by you as complaining or whining — more proof of their victimhood. To actually effectively deal with the victim mindset, you have to stop being righteous and superior about how they are ‘such a victim’. Get yourself in a position of genuinely wanting to support this person to end their own suffering and take productive action (as opposed to ending your suffering of their victimhood).”